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Saturday, March 27, 2010

Case Closed

I found out yesterday that I have been judging people without knowing all the facts. It wasn't a nice thing to learn. As a teacher, and a parent, I feel it is my responsibility to try to figure out what people are like, especially those who would like to be friends (or more) with my children (particularly my daughters).
What disturbs me, is the fact that although I see sides of some people that others don't see, I have blinded myself to the fact that I don't see the whole picture either. I just assume that if a kid is a jerk in my class that they are just a jerk. But I don't want to turn into a monster either.
I don't want my kids to be seduced to the dark side by unworthy friends--something I have witnessed before. And I definitely don't want some guy taking my daughters out who is doing things in his life that could end up hurting them. But now I feel that I need to reassess some of my opinions.
I don't know if any of you have had similar experiences, but I always welcome outside opinions. Okay, no I don't, but right now, I'm open to them.


Delirious said...

I hear you. One of my sons had a girl friend that was bad news. But I DIDN'T judge her, and I SHOULD have. Then he got another girl friend who was a WONDERFUL person, but not a member of the church. My biggest fear was that he would end up marrying her before serving a mission. It would have probably turned out okay for him, but I have high standards for him. :) But I definitely watch my kids' friends carefully. I may not see the entire side of them, but I have a lot more experience than they do, and wisdom does count for something.

Stick said...

Echoing what D said, sometimes you can only judge on what people show you, and I'm sorry, but if a kid was a jerk in school, no matter what "face " he showed outside of school, I would still remember his actions in school. A cat doesn't change his spots, just hides them sometimes.