What disturbs me, is the fact that although I see sides of some people that others don't see, I have blinded myself to the fact that I don't see the whole picture either. I just assume that if a kid is a jerk in my class that they are just a jerk. But I don't want to turn into a monster either.
I don't want my kids to be seduced to the dark side by unworthy friends--something I have witnessed before. And I definitely don't want some guy taking my daughters out who is doing things in his life that could end up hurting them. But now I feel that I need to reassess some of my opinions.
I don't know if any of you have had similar experiences, but I always welcome outside opinions. Okay, no I don't, but right now, I'm open to them.
2 comments:
I hear you. One of my sons had a girl friend that was bad news. But I DIDN'T judge her, and I SHOULD have. Then he got another girl friend who was a WONDERFUL person, but not a member of the church. My biggest fear was that he would end up marrying her before serving a mission. It would have probably turned out okay for him, but I have high standards for him. :) But I definitely watch my kids' friends carefully. I may not see the entire side of them, but I have a lot more experience than they do, and wisdom does count for something.
Echoing what D said, sometimes you can only judge on what people show you, and I'm sorry, but if a kid was a jerk in school, no matter what "face " he showed outside of school, I would still remember his actions in school. A cat doesn't change his spots, just hides them sometimes.
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